We’ve been dating for 9 years now, we had an issue September 2023 and we weren’t talking for a while, a few weeks. When we got back, she told me she had kissed someone. I was sad, I asked the full details, and she said it was just a kiss and once. We had issues but finally settled after a while. I don’t normally go through her phone because it’s against my morals. I saw a trend on Twitter about checking your spouse’s phone, for the first time in years I did. I found out that she had sex with the same person she claimed it was just a kiss, 2 years ago. I couldn’t get to read the whole conversation, I was sad and disgusted. I didn’t approach her about it and I was waiting for her to come clean, which she didn’t for several months. I gave her hints but she didn’t take any or tried to talk. Then one faithful day I told her I read her chats. She was shocked and tried gaslighting me. I still gave her chance to say something but she didn’t. A few days after I told her everything, she kept crying and apologizing that she was scared to say something because she was going to lose me. I was sad and broken, and I asked her to come clean and she said it was just a one-time thing and nothing more.
I made effort to see her the next day so we could talk in person, which we did. She kept on apologizing and I said it’s going to take some time for me to decide on what to do. Three days later she came around and we tried to settle again, she pleading and everything. Then I asked her if it was just once it happened again and she started acting funny. After much pressure, she finally said “I don’t know.” I was furious, then it turned to “maybe 2-3 times.” I’m heartbroken and I really love this girl. For the first time since this issue started, I had to block all contacts right in front of her and asked her to leave my house. My head is spinning, I don’t know what to do, I’m frustrated, I’m hurt, I don’t even know what has been happening behind the scenes these past few years. I want her out of my life and she’s crying and pleading. I don’t even know what I feel for her anymore. Please I need advice on what to do. Mind you, she’s always the one condemning other girls when we come across issues like these. She claimed she doesn’t tell lies and I believed her for years.
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