I have come to understand why people in abusive relationships or marriages struggle to leave. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with my first and only boyfriend for years. Initially, we were broke, and he managed to provide for us. However, everything changed when I started earning money after learning an online business. For the past two years, I’ve been funding our relationship, giving him everything. Despite his laziness, I’m attached to him, and we live together. He’s physically abu$ive, hitting me whenever I go through his phone. Recently, he relocated to a new apartment, and I supported him with ₦600,000 when his brothers sent him money. This year, I bought an iPhone 14 Pro Max, which he pressured me into giving him. I took his iPhone 11 in exchange, but I already had an iPhone 12. We had a recent fight where he beat me severely.
I collected my belongings, including the iPhone and clothes. He’s still begging, but the relationship isn’t the same again. He’s always chatting and flirting with girls but struggles with sex. I attribute this to his low self-esteem, possibly due to weight gain affecting his physique. Now, he’s found a new apartment for me, and I’ve made the payment. I’m torn between cutting him off quietly, sending him ₦100,000, and moving on with my life or staying in the relationship out of pity. We haven’t had sex in years, and I’m loyal only out of obligation. He’s recently started discussing our future, but I’m avoiding these conversations. Despite my bags being packed, I’m still living with him because I’m furnishing my house. I’m unsure what to do next.
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