I’m typing this with sadness in my heart. I want to share what has been on my mind. So I met this guy in December last year and we got to know each other, and I accepted to be his gf in January. I’m 24 and he’s 32. I’m a student and I have my own stuff going on for me, so if at all I need any assist, it’s a plus to what I have already done for myself. Now, that’s not the issue. This guy was sweet and loving at first, our communication was great even if we don’t talk all the time. He calls, texts, and comes around—maybe from work. Even once a week was fine by me because I knew how tiring it could be to drive a long distance. He always wants me around him… like “Babe, I will pick you up on Friday so you can spend the weekend with me.” He likes my post even if he doesn’t reply to it (that’s fine by me; at least he’s following up), but all of a sudden, he changed. And please note, the last thing I want to do to a man that I know is down for me is stress him or put him under unnecessary pressure.
So I asked him the first time what was going on… he said he had a lot going on. I said alright, and I understood that men go through a lot. I gave him time and space for him to try to put himself back together. I was with him, and I figured out this was the time I had to support my bf. But it just keeps getting worse. He has time to plan everything around him, and I feel left out. No dates (we necessarily don’t have to spend so much to have our time together), he doesn’t even call again, and when I talk to him about it, he says “he’s not the calling type.” He doesn’t like my pics anymore, he takes time to respond to my messages, and all this hurts because you know he’s always on his phone. When I go to his place, the only time we connect is during s€x. After that, he goes back to his phone. The last time I was there, I did not even feel anything—just sadness in my heart. This is the guy I go wet for even before he touches me. I have tried talking to him about it, but he keeps saying I’m overthinking and I don’t want to understand.
I just feel like he is focused on what I’m saying, not what I’m hearing or how I feel. I honestly don’t want to go back to where I’m coming from… my past left me a little bruised, and I just want to leave for my sanity and give myself the love I deserve. If I don’t give what I’m asking for, that will be selfish of me. But I chose to love freely and not hold anything back, but I keep going to bed with a heavy heart… I’m not asking for the world. AM I???
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