I just want to tell you guys what I’ve been facing in the past few years. I have a boyfriend who I love so dearly, and I never once cheated on him, but I’m tired of him because there’s no sign he will change even though he promised to change. This guy always makes me cry in silence. He said he loves me, but I can’t see any sign of love. We always have misunderstandings, and we will break up and come back again. I’m 21, gonna be 22 this year, and he’s the guy that disvirgined me. I have this mentality that another man won’t love me the way he does, which I realized is a lie. I met him in school when I was in OND1, and he was in HND1, which was June 2022. We dated without sex for about 6 months before I allowed him to disvirgin me because he started giving me some attitude. I was scared of losing him, so I did it for love. Unfortunately, that’s when my sadness started. He didn’t give a f**k about me. He talked to me rudely and corrected me in a harsh way, as if I’m deaf, and I overthought it.
But I was scared of losing him, so I endured. Sometimes he would say I should be going home, he didn’t feel like seeing me, so I reduced the way I went to his house. I always reported him to his friends, a boy and a girl. The guy always talked to him normally, like a guy, but the girl took action immediately, and I would see change, not knowing he was dating the girl’s best friend. When I found out, I nearly died. I couldn’t keep the pain to myself, so I confronted my bf, and he gave me excuses. I caught him cheating on me several times. His friend later knew I knew about the issue, and she confronted me and pretended she knew nothing about it, but I know she’s the iya oko (mother in law) of the both of us because I saw some chats between her and my bf when they were talking about the issues. Then I got lean because I cried to sleep, and I felt unloved. It’s well!
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