I’m a 29-year-old lady, been dating this man for 9 years. My parents and his have been on our necks to get married. The pressure is just too much, but this man is broke—dead broke! I just had to succumb to their pressure. Last year, I bought my engagement ring myself, planned my wedding proposal with all the serenade, and I still acted surprised when he knelt down to propose (funny, right?). My thought is, my man does not have money, so whatever I can do to help him, I should. All the wedding budget is on me. This guy is doing yahoo, but his own type is what I don’t understand. He might see money today and be broke again for 4, 5, or even 6 months—broke yet nonchalant about his life. During those months that he is broke, I’ll be the one feeding him, catering for his bills down to his data subscription. I really don’t mind doing all that, but what bursted my brain is that I read his chats with another lady 4 days ago, professing love for her and telling her how much he misses her.
Na me dey feed you and buy data for you, na another woman you dey use am talk to? The audacity! Your wedding is coming up in a few months, and you’re cheating—relaxed and not bothered—because you know you’ll get fed. He is not contributing any kobo to the upcoming wedding plans. I feel like canceling the whole marriage plan because I’m tired. You’re broke yet still cheating! But we did our introduction last year, and the main wedding is in a few months. Asoebi and invitation letters have already been sent out to our guests. The hall has been paid for by me. How can I cancel it? My parents can’t handle the shame. I sincerely do not know what to do at this point. I’m not desperate for marriage because he has not been like this throughout the years we’ve been dating. He has always been supportive.
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