Hey fam, in 2019, I met my ex, who was my first love. He broke my heart after dating for a few weeks for no reason—he ghosted me and stopped talking to me. I was in pain, and there was this guy on my WhatsApp who had a friend (let’s call him L). This guy asked me to visit him, so I went. He came with L to pick me up. It happened that we had s€x that day. I left, and I never wanted to speak with him again. I hated myself after the s€x and kept wondering what I had just done. Fast forward a few days later, L messaged me on WhatsApp, telling me he liked me. I was wondering how he would know I had a thing with his friend that day and still be telling me he liked me. He was actually serious—I mean, he sounded serious. Mind you, I was still very young. I had just lost my virginity to my ex, who broke my heart. So, I went to visit L at a hotel. We talked, and he told me how much he liked me, and then it happened—we had s€x. After that day, I felt bad, like I had a thing with two friends. I just blocked both of them.
I ghosted them. This happened in 2019. Fast forward to 2022, I went out with one of my male friends, and I met Mr. L there. I was ashamed of myself. I acted like I didn’t see him because I couldn’t stand him. Fast forward to last year, 2024—Mr. L added me on IG on my birthday and wished me a happy birthday. I remembered him because I knew his username. That was how we started communicating again. He told me he wasn’t in Nigeria 🇳🇬, so we were very cool as friends. He kept reminding me how much he loved me. I, on the other hand, kept remembering what happened in the past. He told me to forget about the past because everyone has a past life. Secondly, he never knew I was heartbroken back then, which led to me having a thing with him and his friend. He also never knew I had all these good qualities as a woman. He kept telling me to forget about the past so we could start afresh. He said he didn’t care about his friend, and they weren’t even that close anymore. He said he didn’t care what his friend would say or think—rather, he couldn’t judge me by my past.
After all, he didn’t meet me at a h0okup site or on the street. So, he told me to stop thinking about the past and focus on us. Since August last year, we’ve been dating, and we love each other so much. He came to Nigeria in January this year and left in February. We’re still dating, and I love him so much. He cares for me, treats me nicely, and does everything for me. We are cool with each other. He’s so calm, and that’s my kind of man because I have a hot temper. He knows how to manage my attitude. We are so in love with each other, but at times, I still think about the past. I don’t know how to forget it. Sometimes, I wonder, “Are we going to end up together?” I question myself—not because of anything but because of what happened in the past. I’m confused. I need advice on how to move on. He doesn’t make me think about it. He doesn’t even give me any reason to think about it. I just think about it all by myself.
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