So, I’m currently in my final year at the university, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for three years now. We’ll be four years in 2025. When we started dating, we were both flirts. In fact, he started chasing me while I still had a boyfriend, but I couldn’t cheat. He waited for us to break up and then asked me out on February 1st, 2021, and I said yes. Long story short, he was very scared that I would cheat on him, but I’ve never been one to cheat. I mean, I was a flirt, but it ended there. But him??? Ahhhhhhh, he was flirting with the entire world, even when we started dating. We eventually cut off all our friends of the opposite gender and decided to take each other seriously—or so I thought. Fast forward to May 2022, he went on a solo vacation and met this girl. The definition of a melanin queen—she was everything I wasn’t. She had big boobs, a nice shape, perfect teeth, and perfect everything, in fact. And they went on a date. He sha came back and left traces on his phone. I never really liked going through his phone, but I decided to do so that day, and I saw a lot! My own boyfriend had become obsessed with this girl.
I confronted him, and he begged. I eventually forgave him, but now, I can’t help but feel like that was the beginning of my fvck-up. This man has literally been having a situationship with one girl or another since then. And I always catch him, and he begs. And because I’m soft, I always forgive him. I even found out he got this girl gifts he has never gotten for me before. For two years now, he’s been cheating on me (although he claims it’s just flirting and that he didn’t do anything with them). And I’m someone who claims to have sense, but I can’t seem to end things with him. I’ve tried like four times in total to break up, but it never works, and I feel like a f00l. He has made it clear countless times that he will never forgive me if I so much as breathe the same air as a guy outside. I’m so tired of the relationship, but I’m stuck here. I recently even found out he did things with a girl who really liked him a month after we started dating. And when I confronted him, he said I was looking for trouble where there was none and that I should learn to move on since it’s in the past. Please, someone should advise me before I go crzy.
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