I started dating my husband in 2019, and while we were dating, he never posted me except on my birthdays. Each time I asked him, he would say he’s scared that after showing me off, I might leave him—stuff like that. He said I’m the only girl he has ever loved and that he’s scared, so I never talked about it. Each time I asked him to go out with me, like on dates, to see movies and all that, he still found excuses, saying he’s not a social person and doesn’t like to be seen everywhere. Even with his friends, he doesn’t go out, except maybe just to chill in a hotel. But he gives me money to go out with my friends, so because he allows me to go with my friends, I didn’t see anything bad in it—not until I got pregnant in 2022. So we did only a court wedding because my mom hasn’t done her own, so it’s forbidden in our tradition; I can’t do my own. I started staying with him; his attitude changed. He was never at home, always sleeping out. I would try to talk to him—what if I went into labor at night?
He would say his parents would help me, that he’s trying to work hard for us. He built the house, but his parents stayed in the front flat while we stayed at the back. All this while, he never slept at home; he was out there cheating. And the painful part is that he keeps videos of them, like a girl giving him a BJ and even one of him sleeping with a girl. He didn’t know that I knew his password, but I have never confronted him about it. But I’m tired; I want to end the marriage. To this day, he’s still doing it. I don’t even know how to tell my parents. I just can’t bear it anymore, so I won’t harm him physically. I’ve been pretending all these years; meanwhile, he’s a pastor’s son. Please, I need your advice. I’m confused; I don’t know what to do. Financially, he’s still doing well, and he provides for me and my child, but emotionally, I’m not okay.
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