So, there’s this guy I’ve known for a few years now. We were supposed to date more than a year ago, but I lost interest, and I remember vividly it was because of his bad hygiene. It’s not so terrible, but the thing is, I’m attracted to guys who smell so nice. A wonderful scent is the first thing I look out for in a partner. We recently reconnected, and we’ve been talking and flowing so well on the phone and via texts. I won’t lie, our talking stage has blossomed, and I’m beginning to develop interest in him. But the thing now is, we have met up on about three occasions—not at his place, though. He came to my city, lodged, and we went on a date, after which he dropped me back at home. Then, I visited my female friend in his city (Lagos) recently, and we’ve gone on like two dates—the cinema and the beach. I won’t lie, I really like this guy, and I know he’ll soon ask me to be his girlfriend, but he still has that hygiene problem. I seriously don’t understand—it’s not like he’s broke and can’t afford cosmetics. If this guy wants to buy a perfume of 1 million, he easily can.
I don’t know if I’m the problem or if it’s because I’ve been in relationships with guys who have extremely good hygiene and do skincare, so now I expect everyone to smell like heaven. I even subtly asked him in a conversation about his skincare routine, and he said he uses any soap he comes across. I really like this guy—he communicates so well, and I’ve been so happy these past few weeks. I know myself—if I accept to be in a relationship with him, I wouldn’t be attracted enough to let him touch me. I’ve been really worried these past few days, thinking of how to make his hygiene good enough for me.
I was considering gifting him a male hygiene set of Skincare products, but wouldn’t he find it weird and get the message? His odor isn’t extremely bad—it’s mostly just sweaty—and I know that with the right products, in three days, he’ll be just fine. I really want things to work out between us this time around, so how do I go about it? How do I stylishly help him without making him feel bad?
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