I have always wanted to get married at an early age; it has been my prayer point as well. I’m a graduate of nursing, already planning for my master’s abroad. I currently have two men in my life. The first is a Nigerian with every quality I’ve prayed for in a man—respectful, he loves me deeply. If I could ask for the world and he could afford it, he would. But he isn’t really financially stable. We’ve been together for two years, and he made his intentions clear about marriage right from the beginning. But the thing is, in the two years of being with him, I’ve never liked or loved him. I was only with him because my family liked him since he’s a good man. I’ve tried my best, but it’s not working.
The second is an American. We’ve been dating for a year now.
He’s been really great and amazing, has taken me to different countries, and also wants to get married. But the distance is a problem—he says he wants to get to know me better, and anything marriage-related will have to wait until I come over to the USA. He’s been to Naija a few times, and he recently processed my visa to the USA to visit him (I just got back). But my problem with this guy is that, because he’s American, he finds it difficult to understand Nigerian culture—like how you can’t just live with a man until you’re married. And he’s been talking about wanting a child lately. Now the problem is, the Nigerian is really pushing for marriage, and I’m really, really confused about who to choose. Making this decision has been really difficult. Please, I need your advice.
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