My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost two years now. Right from when we met till now, he’s been really good to me and very supportive. He often talks about marriage and how he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I honestly love him too, but there’s just something about him I don’t like—he thinks men should be treated with more respect than women. I feel like he has an issue with women in general. He is so quick to attack women, but when it comes to men, he makes excuses for them. P.S.: He treats me well, loves, and respects me too. But I’m just scared—will he change on me one day with this mindset?
Sometimes, when he makes certain statements, I feel so bad, like I’m a lesser human. Note: I don’t have any issues with a man being the head of the family o, but I don’t like the ideology of making me feel like I’m less of a human just because I’m a woman. I believe respect should be reciprocal, not demanded. His dad treated his mom so poorly. Oftentimes, he tells me how his dad was a deadbeat father, but his mom never left the marriage. One day, when he said something bad about women, we had an argument, and he told me I’m too stubborn—that he needs a woman like his mum or a woman like Chioma (Davido’s wife).
I was so angry, but he later apologized and said he was just joking. But deep down, I knew what he meant by that statement. I like the idea of marriage and all, but I want a happy marriage—not one where I’ll have to endure disrespect and emotional distress just because I want to be married. Please, I need your advice. I’ll be in the comments.
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