My boyfriend is 27, and I am 24 years old. He has a 2-year-old son with another girl. We have been in a relationship for 10 months now, and I must say I love him. I am a Christian girl, and he is a Muslim. A Yoruba guy, and I am an Igbo girl, but in love, religion and tribe don’t matter—I guess. All of this, I can overlook based on love. ❤️ But now, the problem is when he talks to his friends in Yoruba, he says all sorts of things about me—how he will soon leave me, how girls aren’t loyal or reliable people (in Yoruba), how he has another girlfriend somewhere in the UK 🇬🇧 that he loves, and all sorts of other things.
He also says he can’t be faithful to one woman and will sleep with any girl that gives him the green light (in Yoruba). I understand Yoruba a lot, but I never told him I do. And mind you, all this was said in my presence (in Yoruba). When his Yoruba friends call while I am with him, he tells them to speak Yoruba so I won’t understand, but little does he know—I understand everything being said. Yet, he treats me like he loves me. Now, knowing all these things, I’m stuck between what I know and how I feel, between what was said and how I am treated. I want to look at it from the perspective of him just trying to brag to his friends and prove a point, or accept that he truly doesn’t like me and move on.
I wanted to tell him I know what he has been saying to his friends in Yoruba about us and how he plans on leaving me very soon when he gets what he is looking for. But then again, what would the outcome be? I plan on leaving because of everything he has been saying. It’s messing with my mind and making me sad. But I also want him to know I heard what he has been saying. My friends advised me not to tell him I understand Yoruba because, once I do, he will beg me as usual, but I will never hear anything he says to them again. More like playing the fool to get what you want. But what do I even want? Love? Lol, it can’t be forced, so why play the fool for it? Guys, please tell me what to do.
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