Please let me know if I’m wrong. I’m a lady, and I have a friend of mine who is not financially okay at the moment. He became withdrawn. I had to text him one day and ask why he isolated himself. He said he doesn’t want to bother anyone with his problems and that he would like to be alone. I told him that henceforth, if he needs anything, he should always tell me. I gave him N250k, which he borrowed from me and offered to pay back as soon as he was okay. Personally, I sent him money aside from the one I lent him to hold. The following day, he said he needed more, which I gave him because he was really down. A few days after, I sent him money again. I understand that he really needs money at the moment. Later, he said it wasn’t enough, and I added a small change sha. One day, he called me, saying his account was locked for 24 hours and he needed to make a transfer.
He was in a serious issue. I took from my rent and gave it to him, but I told him that he should please return it after 24 hours as I was really broke. He said definitely. Twenty-four hours passed—no refund. I thought maybe the bank hadn’t released his money. I borrowed from my neighbor to quickly pay my rent before I started spending the money, hoping once he refunded, I’d pay back my neighbor. A day passed—no refund. Two days—no refund. I sent a VN begging him to please give me, even if it’s half, as the lady was disturbing me. Well, he never refunded the money. I sent him a VN saying what he did was not good. If he needed money, he should have told me, and I would have given it to him. The fact that he told me he would refund after 24 hours made me borrow from my neighbor because I believed he would send it back soon.
I told him I didn’t like what he did and that I felt stupid. He didn’t reply to my text. I told him it’s fine sha, that I’ve been able to refund the neighbor. He said okay, that he would talk to me later. Then he stopped communicating with me since. It’s been two weeks. I don’t know if I should feel bad for constantly asking for a refund, even when I know he has issues and I was the one who encouraged him not to isolate himself and ask for help from people. I had no issue giving, but because he told me he would refund after 24 hours, I went out of my way to borrow from my neighbor. I believed I’d get it back soon. Shebi, I for just chill.
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