Let me go straight to the point. I have a girl I have been dating for almost three years now, and she is not from Nigeria. I love this girl so much that we are planning our future together, but sometime last year, I met a girl through a friend online, and she fell in love with me. However, I told her that I have a girlfriend. This girl insisted that she would be my girlfriend. The reason I told her about my girlfriend is that I don’t want problems later. So, last year, I came to Nigeria, and we met.
She spent a lot of time with me, I was with this girl for close to two weeks. I gave her money without her asking. I got her an iPhone XR because the day she came to visit me, it was raining, and her phone (an Infinix worth N60k) got damaged. So, I decided to replace the phone without her asking. I bought her clothes and gave her money to buy more. When I traveled back to my base, I told her to visit me (outside the country). I processed everything and gave her money to buy things she needed for the travel.
During her visit, my girlfriend was very busy and not around, so she stayed for 1 week at my place. I took her to many places, including shopping, clubbing, beach, mall, restaurant, and more. I gave her enough cash when she was leaving. After one month or so, we started having issues. It all started when I told her to update her iPhone, and she didn’t know how to do it. She opened her WhatsApp and did screen mirroring, and I directed her on how to download the update.
While the update was downloading, she mistakenly opened her WhatsApp while the call was still mirroring, and I saw a text of a guy telling her, “I love you.” I started asking her who the man is, and she began emotionally blackmailing me, claiming she had been blocking the man, but he keeps using different numbers to add her. I asked her if the man is using a different number to add you always.
Then, scroll up, let me see your text with the man. This girl immediately stopped the screen mirroring. I asked her, since this man is adding you with different numbers, why did you save the man’s number and even chat with him to the extent of “I love you” text? She keeps using emotions to blackmail me. Mind you, at that time, her phone was already spoiled before I got her a new one. I used to give her my iPhone to keep her company until she traveled back.
This girl went to my Instagram, TikTok, and contacts, taking my girlfriend’s phone number and username. I discovered this before I traveled back to my base, and I cautioned her about it. This side chick, in particular, I had her in mind in case my relationship doesn’t work, it would work with her. So, in the midst of our issues, did you know that this girl sent my girlfriend a picture of me and her kissing and even told my girlfriend that she is pregnant, and we did a secret wedding, and so on?
Truth be told, I love my girlfriend with all my heart, but sometimes I get scared because I think her parents will not allow me to marry her since I’m a foreigner. That was the reason I cheated on my girl. Till today, I’m still regretting my actions because my girlfriend is a loving soul. I started from scratch with this girl, and she loves me the way I love her. She listens to me, and she’s a very intelligent and respectful girl. Since we started dating, she has never asked me for anything and never gotten more than she asked for.
But this Jezebel ru!ned my life. This resulted in a big issue that I spent a lot of money. Now, I want to deal with the girl when I come to Nigeria. However, she knows that I’m involved in online fraud (Yahoo), but I appear very responsible, and you wouldn’t know without me telling you because I live a very low-key life. This girl almost ruined my life with that picture and lies she told my girlfriend, but that’s a story for another day.
I really want to deal with this girl the hard way. I have her nak€d pictures and videos, but I don’t see posting a woman’s nud£ content as a flex. I want to genuinely deal with her. Should I sue her or just arrest her? Or should I take a harder approach? (I’m a tough guy, but I don’t want to physically h@rm her by sending people to get her or b€at her, which I also don’t see as a flex.) I want to take legal action that she will regret for the rest of her life because this girl almost ruined me.
I only have one fear here, and that is she knows that I’m involved in Yahoo Yahoo. That’s my problem. She has brothers and cousins who are also involved in Yahoo, and I’m thinking that she will expose me if I do anything to her. However, I’m planning to expose her brothers too if she tries such a thing. Within 5 to 7 months that we dated, I spent a lot on this ungrateful human being. But she is a very wicked girl, and I want to reciprocate. Please advise me on what to do. I will be in the comment section.
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