Good day, elders on Rantandtalkz. I don’t have sense, so please help me. I am a 20-year-old girl in my final year in uni. I have a boyfriend that I love soooo much (he’s literally my fav in the world). Since the relationship started, he has been cheating. He was even dating one girl before I accepted to be his girlfriend and was also in a “bestie” relationship with another girl. I got mad and ended things with him because he didn’t apologize for what he did and acted like it was no big deal. Deep down, that broke me. He later apologized and said he cut ties with the girls because he wanted me and truly loved me. Later on in the relationship, he still kept cheating, and I avoided talking about it. He kept doing it till it got to my mutual friends. The whole thing made me go mad. Then, when I confronted him, he started telling me he wasn’t interested in the relationship anymore because I was “always in his business” (always knowing about who he was cheating with).
He didn’t talk to me for a week after that, so I stopped checking on him. I later met a guy (honestly, I only wanted to use the guy to heal). Please, you people should not be offended. I was already liking the guy (let’s call him Bolu), and I told him I didn’t have a boyfriend because, apparently, I didn’t. My boyfriend always thr£atens to break up with me whenever I find out about his cheating behavior. Later, I decided to move on with Bolu because I didn’t like the situation I was in with the other relationship. My boyfriend started calling and texting me everywhere, begging me to get back together with him. I still had much love for him, so I went back. That left Bolu devastated. I kept apologizing to him. So, I continued dating my boyfriend, and then he found out about Bolu. He didn’t really say anything about it because he had broken up with me and saw that I didn’t have sex with Bolu. Later, he cheated again and did the same thing (threatening to break up).
He kept doing it because he knows I have a soft spot for him. I was done, then I cheated on him with Bolu. (I was stupid for doing that.) My boyfriend and I were cool again, then he cloned my WhatsApp and found out about what I did with Bolu. He chose to never forgive me. He said we can only keep talking if I’ll continue to give him my body. I still love him, and I have broken down badly. I want to move on, but it hasn’t been easy for me. I stopped talking to Bolu the moment my boyfriend found out. I even insulted Bolu when he kept calling me with different numbers. I still love my boyfriend. Please, what can I do? I want him to be my last bus stop. Please, I need your advice. (Nobody should say it’s because my boyfriend has money that’s why I chose not to move on. My boyfriend has money, and Bolu makes more money than him sef. So, it’s not about the money; it’s the feelings.) I know people in the comment section might say this. That’s why I’m clearing myself here.
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