I have known this person for a very long time. Though he started liking me when I was in secondary school, and because I was young and did not want to go into the romantic relationship life at a very young age, I turned him down. We’ve been close for long, and I left secondary school in 2016. We eventually grew apart since and stayed in different states but still kept in touch. Fast forward to 2023, our communication became very strong. He kept saying his love for me has been the same and he wants me to be his woman. We don’t stay in the same state. I told him I’d think about it after I graduate from medical school.
We’ve been together since November 2023, but all through this one year of our relationship, he complains about my way of dressing. I like to cover myself up because I have a banging body, I can’t lie. But I don’t like showing it off because I’m not comfortable with that, and he would say I’m not very exposed. He’d also say I don’t know “bedroom things” and so on, but I keep telling him I’d learn and adjust. Anytime we talk, he’ll say, “Do you, and I’ll do me. You don’t owe me anything.” He will always say, “I don’t want to call you every day because I don’t want you to take me for granted,” because his ex did the same to him.
I’m not a demanding girl. I don’t even ask him for money. Most times, he sends me money without me asking. He has no issues with giving me money, plus I know he’s my boyfriend, not my father, and he is not obligated to do too much for me. I don’t even ask him for the basic things like body lotion or stuff. I let him give me money or things at his own will. But anytime I send him pictures of myself going out or going to work, he’d always complain about my hair or outfit. Please, I really need help on this. If he wants me to dress in a certain way, isn’t he supposed to make provisions for that?
I feel he compares me with his ex sometimes because she still calls him and tells him she wants him back even after she knew he has moved on. She’s even tried ki¡¡ing herself one time. He feels he can do everything for himself because he’s well domesticated and always makes me feel like I can’t do anything for him. He has never adjusted or changed any of his character traits I have been complaining about for the past year. He always talks about our future together, but his actions say otherwise. Is he still traumatized? I need help, please!
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