I dated my ex for a really long time (can’t specify, una go laugh me). Two years ago, I had to let him go because his mom said she would disown him if he married me. He was ready to marry me still because he really loved me; however, I couldn’t bring myself to breaking mother and son up because his mom really suffered for him and his siblings. All my life, I always had this beautiful imagination of me and my mom-in-law having a wonderful relationship. I did my best to beg her, even went as far as asking people around to beg her so I can know my fault, but she just hated me.
I loved this guy like my whole existence depended on it, but then I wanted him to have a peaceful home, so I broke up with the only man that put me first before anyone. A year ago, I met someone. After a whole lot of thinking, I decided to give him a chance, and it’s been okay. He loves me, but the issue is his attitude is not what I think I can settle for. He hardly cares. By care, I don’t mean money or gifts; that’s not the main thing I look for in a guy. I can be sick and this guy will be so relaxed. One time I got so sick in his house, I thought I was going to die. This guy gave me money to go get medicine by myself while he was playing video games.
All through the three days I was sick, he only asked how I was feeling just once, and I was in his house. Most times, it feels like I’m still single. I know he loves me in his own way, but those attentions and deep care I used to get from my ex, I miss them so much. My ex knew when something was wrong even before I made an attempt to tell him. While this one, even when I try to express myself, he will just wave it off. I can’t even talk to someone I’m dating about my mental struggles. Now I’m thinking of breaking up with him, but I’m so scared of body counts. This is my second relationship, and I already feel like it’s too much.
I don’t know if my ex’s mom will ever change her mind because my ex is still single. I don’t know if I should just stay with this guy and admit that I’ll always have to depend on myself for whatever emotional support and care I want. I was such a pampered girlfriend; if I hadn’t slept with this guy, I would have left him already, I swear. Now it’s like I’m just settling…and I do love this guy. Help a confused sister.
Also Read: Tired of Dating My Mummy’s Boy