I’m 24 years old and I’ve been single for a while. So around March, I met a guy from my community online and we clicked without even knowing we are from the same community. Fast forward to 3 weeks of meeting, we started dating. He treated me so good that I felt like a princess; he doesn’t allow me to do anything while I’m around him. So around April, I didn’t see my period and I told him. We ran tests and I was pregnant. He didn’t ask me twice if he was responsible for the pregnancy, but before all this, towards our talking stage period, he made it clear that he is not ready for marriage but if eventually I get pregnant that he will take care of me and the baby. Me either wasn’t ready because I want to put my life together before entering marriage.
So when the news came, I was shocked and wasn’t ready to be a mother nor a baby mama, but he doesn’t want an abortion because he made it clear to me from the onset that if I ever had an abortion that’s the end of us and he will hate me for life. We had so many in common as I’ve always prayed not to have an abortion too, so I told him and we decided to meet. That very day we met, I became sick, he was so scared the sickness became bad that he wanted to take me to the hospital but I refused because I h8te the smell of hospitals and I wanted to be with him. We continued staying home, I started shivering, lack of sleep, my eyes were rotating with other things.
We visited the pharmacy and ran a few tests and started taking treatment. For a week, I was down till one day I couldn’t hear again. I started crying and he couldn’t take it. We rushed to the hospital and they said it’s part of the pregnancy trimester that it’s always like that to some people. So after my visit to the hospital, I became alright two days later. I decided to leave to my own house, he refused and later accepted so I left. Then the wickedness started. He couldn’t come because I stayed in another city. For four days I was sick, on the fifth day I woke up to blood stains all over me. I was shocked, I went to the hospital and they said I had a miscarriage.
I was heartbroken and devastated, but before I went to the hospital, I told him and made a video of the blood and sent it to him. I came back and told him, he just asked if I’m okay and then we ended the call. After a day, he started treating me badly. He doesn’t call nor check on me. I called sometimes he picked up and sometimes he wouldn’t. I had to travel to his city to meet him. He didn’t come out to see me. I was so hurt and heartbroken. My greatest fear had happened. I lost a baby and my lover at once. I was depressed, but I didn’t give up. I continued calling till one day he opened up that he went to a seer and he told him he knew what happened to the baby. I was so confused.
I told him I didn’t know what happened, then I told him we could visit any hospital of his choice. I know labs can dictate if I had an abortion or not, but he didn’t take it. I pleaded but to no avail. I stopped… After a while, he called me on video call and was like “he believed me but his friends, mother, siblings were the one making him act that way ’cause of the things they told him as someone who hasn’t been in this country for a long time that he can’t trust me ’cause girls of my age are capable of doing so many things but he knew within him that I didn’t do it. I listened to all that he had to say and we ended the call.
I was so hurt that when I needed him he wasn’t there and if I wanted to abort the baby I would have done it without telling him and he won’t even find out. So he chats me up sometimes to check up on me and each time he does, he compliments me on how good I’m looking, because if over months and I’m healing. Fast forward to August, I went to the city he was because that’s where I went to school and I’m currently doing my clearance so he saw my post on WhatsApp and asked if I was in town and I said yes. He asked if we could meet and I told him when I’m chanced I will hit him up.
So one morning I chatted him and told him I’m free today. He came to pick me that morning and took me to his house. We started talking about our differences and I told him I never felt I could come to this house regarding how he treated me. He was like “why would I say that?” We talked for a while and he kissed me. I pushed him away. He said he was sorry for treating me that way that he had so many things going through his head that moment, plus the things other people were filling in his head. He was so mad. I started crying as to he reminded me of what I was trying to forget then he hugged me, kissed me, and I kissed him back.
One thing led to another, we had sex, and I slept over. I stayed in that city for a month and I visited him like five times and we had sex those five times. Now I’m confused because he didn’t say we are back together or not… And I feel like I shouldn’t have allowed that to happen. Now I feel like I’m cheap because we didn’t even define what we are having and I don’t know if I should ask him… Please guys, what do you think? I will be in the comments section. Should I ask him? Or let it slide, as I’ve traveled to my base. Mind you I didn’t abort the baby, honestly!
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