Hi guys! I hope you’re having an amazing day. I have a concern and will share a little about myself for context. I’m 32 years old, light-skinned, and petite at 5’5″. I reside in Abuja and work in tech. Anyway, let’s dive into why I’m here. I’m bougie and allergic to/disgusted by a lot of things, which gives people a robotic impression of me. I’ve been called spoiled and materialistic, but I am not. I just appreciate beautiful things. For dates, I enjoy coffee, lattes, fine dining, and boutiques. I also enjoy walking in the park. I am a safari girl, though I’m sad we don’t have one in Nigeria. I’m allergic to damp walls, mold, wet moss, and crayfish.
I tried drinking garri one time, and it felt like something was stuck in my throat for days—it tastes great, though. I will not lay on bedsheets that have been used for 48 hours, and I don’t share pillows. I take my skincare routine as seriously as I do my diet. I believe in a clean and healthy body. It’s both anatomically and aesthetically pleasing, right? Dental plaque grosses me out as much as fake designer wear does. Authenticity stands out for me in all things. I don’t drink beer, but I will Netflix and chill or play soccer with you (I beat my friend in FIFA using FC Porto, lol).
I enjoy being at home or in a home. I’m ambiverted but now leaning more towards my introverted side because I work from home. My family thinks this is scaring Nigerian men away. I’m not going to lie, my walls were high up—”were” because I have been to therapy and now have the tools to manage my issues. I was diagnosed with PTSD and complex trauma due to my childhood experiences and was k!dnapped last year. I don’t think my standards are unattainable. I realized that I sort of attract people who only want something from me for their ego or status.
I am a very attractive woman, I’m aware of that, but I’m more than a pretty face. I can be ghetto if I want to, and I’ve got brains too. I rarely talk about myself, even if I want to, because they just keep talking about themselves like some automobile salesmen, lol. I don’t feel seen at all. I know I won’t look this way forever, but I know what I want, and it’s not unrealistic. A kind, intentional man shouldn’t be too much to ask for, right? What do you think?
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