I am currently in a two-year relationship with this guy. He’s 31, I’m 26. From the get-go, we both agreed to a private relationship. We don’t want to put our affair unnecessarily into public view. We were cool and have been fine until recently. He doesn’t want me to post his picture on his birthday and other occasions. He posted a picture he took outside the country, and I replied with a loving comment. I felt that with the endearment words I used, he would repost my comment, but he didn’t, so I asked him about it. He said he actually felt like it but didn’t want to. I asked why, and he suddenly started giving excuses—he had a stressful week and all that. I told him he’s beginning to make our relationship secretive, which is unhealthy, and reminded him of instances when he refused to let me post his pictures.
It’s been over a year since we both posted anything about each other, and it’s becoming weird. I just don’t really feel safe about this particular secretive behavior, and it has gotten me worried and on edge. He claimed he’s not looking for anyone’s validation regarding our relationship and doesn’t need to put it out there. I said being private is different from being secretive, and his having a problem with reposting his woman’s comment on his WhatsApp is being secretive and a red flag. Am I overreacting, or are my feelings valid? Also, I would be visiting soon, and I already have this instinct to check his phone.
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