I find myself in a situation that’s been troubling me, and I could really use your advice. I started dating a girl I met on Instagram, but it wasn’t a conventional start—I didn’t ask her out; she pushed for us to be in a relationship after a brief talking stage. Initially, I wasn’t ready for a commitment, but she insisted, and we began dating. Since then, things have become complicated. She’s asking for money frequently, despite not knowing about my financial situation.
I make a substantial income (Within N4-7m monthly) and own properties; I’ve never told her this. The only thing I told her is that I’m into tech, which I am, and I don’t do Yahoo. Her behavior has changed too. She sometimes goes out without informing me, but I don’t say anything. I feel uneasy about her intentions. In just two months, I’ve spent a significant amount (N1.4 million), and we haven’t even been intimate, which doesn’t bother me as much as the financial demands and her changing demeanor.
I’m planning to visit her soon, but I’m hesitant due to these red flags. I’m about to move abroad, and I don’t want to invest emotionally in someone who might only be interested in billing me. I’m the only son, and I’m a very, very nice person. I went to visit my mum yesterday, and she and my sisters in$ulted me, saying they’re tired of me not having a girlfriend. Mind you, I haven’t said anything about her.
I’ve never cheated on any woman I’ve dated, and I just have two exes. It’s sad that I always get used. Any advice or perspective on how to handle this would be greatly appreciated. I value honesty and respect in relationships, and I’m struggling to find clarity in this situation.
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