I met a guy through a friend, and we started a relationship 2 years ago. We both live in Canada and in the same city. I intend to move in with him in October as I have lost my current job and need somewhere to stay before getting a new one because I can’t afford to continue paying rent. The issue is, he wants us to settle down as a couple immediately after I move in, which I’m ready to do as I’m not getting any younger. I found out he’s a 1-minute man, and his performance in bed is -100. He can barely move his waist or even last up to a minute when we make love. Most times, I have to end up using my vibrator to satisfy myself.
As much as I saw that as a red flag, I still decided to go ahead with the relationship. He calculates every amount he spends on me as he’s very stingy and would prefer to buy me an item than give me the money. We had a discussion last month that got me thinking, and I noticed we don’t share the same beliefs when it comes to religion and tithe payment. He’s a Christian but doesn’t go to church or believe in fasting or prayer. His idea of Christianity is just to be a good person, and that’s all. I believe in practicing Christianity, I’m a faithful tithe payer. I pay my tithe faithfully and even do other works in the house of God.
He told me that when we eventually get married, I may need to stop paying tithe as he believes pastors eat the tithe and it’s not recorded in the Bible. He said it’s a dealbreaker for him and that he detests people who pay tithe. So I must stop it or rather use the tithe money to send money to my family or buy him a gift. I have always believed in tithe as it’s part of me. He has also drafted out the bills in the house, and I must pay 40 percent of the expenses when I get a full-time job, as well as give him an account of the balance of my salary because he intends for us both to get a house in less than 3 years and plan for kids, so we need to start saving towards it.
He doesn’t cheat or lie; he’s a faithful guy and works genuinely, which attracted me to him at first. But what do I do? Should I go ahead and marry him, even though he’s stingy? Can I cope with the 1-minute sex for the next 20 years? Should I stop paying my tithe? Or should I hope to meet a better man someday?
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